The woman you see above is "Katelynn". She is one of the cast members in this years "REAL WORLD: BROOKLYN". I first discussed "Katelynn" a few weeks ago with one of my cousins. The topic, ...well, I thought you'd never ask.
Katelynn is a transgender individual, a "woman" ...who was once a male. The discussion began with two questions.
Let's begin with the first.
When a man shows interest (hanging out, touching, kissing, etc.) in a woman like Katelynn, ...should the woman inform the male of her "prior" gender, and if yes...when?
If I was single (and I'm not, thanks babycakes!) and hanging out at a bar with a few "Dos Equis" in me, I would want to know if a "Katelynn" type aproached me. It's not that I'm insecure or that I have a hate for people who make these choices, ....I just think it's unfair that a "woman" like Katelynn would take advantage of my "unknowingness" (not sure if that is a word...hmmm, oh well, you know what I mean). A female like "Katelynn" obviously knows that her chances associating with a straight male like myself in a intimate way, is decreased if she divulges her "Born Identity" (no, not Matt Damon!, ...that's Bourne Identity!). You see, "Katelynn" is holding back "truth", and if she is seriously trying to build a relationship, or for that matter "love", how can you start out that way? Now, I bet you will say "Well, what if she's just wanting fun, and the guy is wasted from alcohol, ...it's his fault right? He should be aware, ...right?" Well, let's analyze that. I thought "men" in general get (expletive) for doing that very thing, ...taking advantage of one all "liquored up". Is that not the same? It definitely happens, ...but is it right? I'll answer, ...NO, it is not. Sure, a male or female should take some responsibility and control their state of mind...and their alcohol, but where does the other half of responsibility take place? I'm not sure how I would go about it, but I think a female like Katelynn could honestly (and casually) mention her "prior" gender in a conversation. I mean, females do it all the time when a "boyfriend" needs to be mentioned (Example: Blane/ So, you remember that movie Mrs. Doubtfire? Susie/ Oh, I love Robin Williams, I own it, and my "boyfriend" hates it when I pop that dvd in, ...why do you ask? Blane/ Oh, nothing, I'll be right back, I'm getting paged, ...I'm a doctor). Now, most likely Susie would not see Blane again (and we know damn well Blane is really a janitor *nothing wrong with janitors of course*), and a "Katelynn" would most likely not see ME again, but that's okay, because the playing field is now even and level (meaning, no mind *expletive* occurred). With all this said, there is nothing wrong with having a conversation with a "Katelynn", because talking about generic subjects is just that, talking.
Let's talk about the second question that was brought up.
If you rented a house with four unknown persons, would you want to know if a "Katelynn" was amongst your future roommates? Should he....I mean, "she", tell you, and if yes, when?
I discussed this with a long time friend of mine. I explained that roommates have a responsibility to make their future roommates comfortable, stress free, and cooperative. I think this would include a household free of ...tantrums, money issues, destruction, empty refrigerators, drugs, thrown laundry, life secrets (like past genders, diseases, sexual orientations, bad habits, multiple personalities, etc.), dirty dishes, accidents, unchecked mail, etc. For me, being comfortable is key, you can't get a long with ANYONE if you are uncomfortable, no matter what the issue might be. Finding out by accident, that my future roommate was once a male, would upset me because my roommate didn't respect me enough to make me feel comfortable, or for that matter, take into consideration how I would feel about the issue. I mean, I would have given him...I mean, "her", the same respect or consideration, let's say...If I had a bad venereal disease, or I went by the name of Dave, Bill, Tom, Bud, Chuck, Lilly, on different days depending on my identity preference for the day (then again, I would not remember which identity revealed the truth, if they even did!), or drank six 40's of Malt Liquor or more each day until I spewed left over t.v. dinners. I know all skeletons don't necessarily need to be revealed, but I think big, life altering changes, can affect others and any harmony you and other roommates are trying to create. In conclusion, I am just being honest, it would bother me ...but not destroy me, and wrong or right...that is just how I feel about it.
How do you feel?